Their Loved Ones Leaves, but The Sadness Linger, to Stay Forever
How terrible it is to love something that death can touch.
It is not the stay home or the obligation to always wear a mask, but losing the ability to have proper grief that annoys me the most. It is the most important thing that was completely forgotten throughout this peculiar time.
The grief is not just for the one who was left behind, but also for the one who departs. Nobody deserves to die on their deathbed, alone, with no one to hold when you take your last breath in a cold, bright room. And nobody deserves to lose someone they love without saying goodbye for the last time.
Were they smile? were they suffer? you don’t know. You’ll be left alone, in the cloud of uncertainty, wondering.
If you are the one who used to question how important rituals or ceremonial in a funeral you may want to reconsider asking the same question in the future, because this pandemic will tell you ‘NO’ to those rituals or ceremonial where you suppose to pour your heart out before you have to let your loved ones gone forever.
You are only allowed to see them from afar, and yet from the distance, the only thing you can see is a casket nailed end to end, wrapped in plastic.
No religious figures to lead the memorial service. No one attends the funeral to offer their support and sympathy to the bereaved. Nothing.
It’s sad. It’s awful. It’s hell.
The grief will haunt the living. The sadness will linger, to stay forever. Perhaps not all wounds meant to be healed, some might better be left as scars. Scars are what happens when the words are made flesh, and those scars will be your reminder that you’ve survived hell.
I used to question, is it a blessing or curse to see the death of your loved ones? and perhaps finally I’ve found my answer. This is the experience that will mark us and make us just as much as the joyful ones.
Ah, how terrible it is to love something that death can touch.
To those who right now are fighting against this damned virus, keep fighting and stay strong. You know you got this. Your family will always wait for you no matter how long it will take.
And my deepest condolences to those who lost their loved ones. You can cry, you can scream from the top of your lungs, if you have to. But don’t forget to cherish and celebrates their moments; there are still happiness in there. If the grief must remain, let it be, let it stay, consider it as the unexpressed love that you never got to tell them. Because at the end, we don’t move on from grief, we just move forward with it.
